During my first two weeks at Smith I felt rather like a display in a shop window. We prefer not to consider the fact that human destinies are subject to amazingly ephemeral influences and that often our most rewarding experiences come about by pure chance. The average college girl, then, is trapped by the male wish for dating security. This is just one of the innumerable difficulties that girls can get into and it has a great deal to do with the strong loyalty of the fraternity system. The Eastern women's colleges and I can speak with authority only about Smith subtly emanate, over a period of four years, a concept of the ideal American woman, who is nothing short of fantastic.
They then give themselves over to the most confining kind of domestic life, an attitude of martyred anti-intellectualism, and a permanent chip on the shoulder. I simply use him to illustrate what I imagine to be some of the attitudes of young men who want to settle down early. Our liberally educated girl is not very likely to be swept away on a tide of passion. Ever since Gertrude Stein made her remark about the Lost Generation, every decade has wanted to find a tag, a concise explanation of its own behavior. Now, one might wonder about the questions of love and sex. Obviously, Susie is hardly in love with Joe in the way one might hope.
One is that anything is all right if you're in love romantic, from movies and certain fiction—the American dream of love and the other is that a girl must be respected, particularly by the man she wants to marry ethical, left over from grandma. Don't you realize that now I have to go out and find myself a new girl? None of her dates must know any of the others, and she will have to be scrupulously careful in her allotment of Saturday nights. She has kept Joe fairly well at arm's length, giving in a little at a time, because she wanted him to respect her. He might waste seven Saturday nights and two proms on hopeless blind dates before he finds one he likes. Liberal education is a trust. This gives her savoir-faire, while still maintaining her maiden dignity.
This is something many of us have felt and want to avoid ourselves though we have not been very successful. It still hurts her to think about that. We need to feel our place in history; it helps in our constant search for self-identity. And, today, shotgun weddings are looked down upon and illegal abortions sound appalling. If she balks at this at first, she soon accepts—a couple of Saturday nights playing bridge with the girls quickly teach her what's good for her.
She would like to go, because she likes Boy Number Two, and why not? He knows exactly what he is going to do after graduation, the army, navy, or marines; and a few years' graduate school. I suspect that for most women the problem doesn't really become apparent until after a few years of marriage, when the novelty of everything has worn off and the ticking of the clock becomes louder. For it is part and parcel of the concept of liberal education to better human beings, to make them more thoughtful and understanding, to broaden their interests. The phenomena of pinning, going steady, and being monogamous-minded do not suggest sexual promiscuity. This depends on his and her notions of what constitutes a nice girl.
She delivered it to Joe, who listened her out with a rather stunned expression, and then waited for his reaction. It is so easy to become tied up with old Joe, even though he is rather a bore, and avoid those nightmarish Saturday nights home with the girls. Susie, like all her friends, has a deep-rooted fear of pregnancy, which explains their caution about having affairs. And he may well need arguments at this point. Our free college sex tube is always hardcore and filled with graphic erotic scenes for you to blow a load to, so visit Pornhub.
Witness a sloppy blowjob from a big boob teen pornstar who really knows how to handle a monster cock. They have heard that no kind of birth control is really infallible. She just can't manage it for long, unless she is unusually beautiful and simply catnip to every man who sees her. Besides this, she must be attractive, charming, gracious, and good-humored; talk intelligently about her husband's job, but not try to horn in on it; keep her home looking like a page out of House Beautiful; and be efficient, but not intimidatingly so. Parents who have lived in the Jazz Age can not very well forbid adventurousness, nor can they take a very stalwart attitude about sex. Watch a juicy anal porno movie where a perfect round ass gets penetrated until it fills up with a huge load of cum. Men become annoyed, certainly, and occasionally absolutely furious at all this nonsense, but they are still calmly sure of their own superiority; and women, whether or not they admit it, find this comforting.
Undoubtedly most of them weren't. She must be a successful wife, mother, community contributor, and possibly career woman, all at once. She is no demimondaine, and she wants to be reasonably intact on her wedding night. She tries to do everything at once and doesn't succeed in doing anything very well. The modern American female is one of the most discussed, written-about, sore subjects to come along in ages. She has had to create her own right and wrong, by trial and error and endless discussion.
Nothing was less romantic than the front porch of the house, or Joe's room at the fraternity with his roommate running back and forth from the shower, or in the back of someone's car with only fifteen minutes till she had to be in. If this is what is meant by Susie's search for security, it is not security from a frightening world but from a world that has treated her too well. Susie has, on the whole, kept her chastity. Now if Joe sounds abominably lazy, besides being a monster of self-indulgence which, of course, he is , I do not mean to say that he is the living example of young American manhood. But moral generalizations seem remote and unreal, something our grandparents believed in. If my disillusioned friend complains about it, he had better realize that as long as he wants an educated woman, his chances of finding one who is also willing to be totally dominated by her husband, who can yield completely to him, are fairly slim. Even if they do, their daughters rarely listen.